So, why does it seem to be so tempting to use ANGER to identify that we have a problem?

The answer is maybe because it goes viral causing a raucousness around that angry person.

Like a baby crying, or a chimpanzee going ape-shit, or a madman with an assault weapon.

Anger only seems to identify that the person (or animal) has an issue but does NOT seem to help us or them to observe the:
Who,
What,
When,
Where,
How and Why
of the problem.

Only calm, rational discussion and conversation can achieve that, in my view.

I think it is time I reduced my anger further.