Monthly Archives: October 2012

What is Rethink Perfect?

Rethink perfect is an agreement proposal that states that conversation is for converting. But not for converting other people or their problems but for converting my own problems, through their feedback, into a conversion or convergence of ideas – that … Continue reading

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Converse Unto Others….

Here is my latest proposal for a conversation. ME: Hello, I would like to converse with you but only as I would have you converse with me. OTHER: Really, and how would you have me do that? ME: To only … Continue reading

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Separating the Problem from Behaviour

Conversation on the principles of separating the behaviour from the person and then the problem from the behaviour. From Peter Crocker’s Article on Flying Solo: I am an introvert. Now they tell me! Peter Crocker Hi all. Thanks so much … Continue reading

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How to Solve a Problem Like Maria

Separate Maria from her behaviour Separate her behaviour from your problem Get an agreement for future behaviour (possible problem of yours).

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How to Really Forgive AND Forget

Apologise for not having an explicit agreement in place on how you prefer to be treated. Propose an agreement, from now on, for how you would like to be treated.

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Three Separations of Problems

Q: How do I deal with this person? Separate the person from their behaviour Q: How do I deal with this behaviour? Separate their behaviour from the problem Q: How do I deal with this problem? Separate OUR behaviour from … Continue reading

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The Problem is Not Me, It’s Mine!

The prolem is not me, it’s mine in how I react or deal with someone trying to “…ram their ideas down my throat” or trying to make me, or my behaviour, the problem. An old mate of mine, used to say … Continue reading

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