Monthly Archives: October 2011

Absolute Priming

A very common technique to try prime us into not adding a diverse or dissenting view is to use the word “absolutely”. This is a great sales technique, is very hard to rebut and seems to have been adopted by … Continue reading

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10 Steps to Planning a Rethink Perfect Relationship

1. All agreements can be revisited 2. Encourage diverse thinking and dissent 3. Complain responsibly by going direct to the person 4. Be prepared for the failure 5. Make requests not demands 6. Speak with Adjustable, Accountable and Acceptable language 7. … Continue reading

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Phase Transition in Relationships

What is a “phase transition” and how does it apply to relationships? A phase transition is what Michael J. Mauboussin refers to in his book Think Twice, when talking about the millennium bridge “failure” or design flaw. The bridge was designed … Continue reading

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How to “Suck Up” and “Suck People In”

Why is it that so many young people today seem to want to inspire, influence and win new friends? Well, anyone with this goal are not about to inspire or win me over and will only influence me to write … Continue reading

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Seeking Dissent and Diversity

In Think Twice, Michael Mauboussin’s book on harnessing the power of counter intuition, he talks on page 34 about seeking out dissent by finding data from “….reliable sources that offer conclusions different than yours. This helps avoid a foolish inconsistency”. … Continue reading

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Madge and Dame Edna

I’m staying with my mum at the moment and I just realised that she reminds me of Madge and I sound like Dame Edna.

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Truce in Conversation or Agreed Method of Disengagement

Chapter 9. DFM Direct Feedback Moment The goal of this chapter is to create and agree to use a tool that will pause a conversation when one of us thinks we have reached a point where we cannot reach an … Continue reading

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