Monthly Archives: March 2014

Why is that that most people, that I ask, seem to think that anger is acceptable? But when I ask them if domestic violence is acceptable I have not found one taker. Yet domestic violence is only the symptom or … Continue reading →

If you ‘accept a person for who they are’ (their anger included), then you’ll expect them to accept you and your anger also. And, to me, you’ll both receive what you ultimately accept, your anger included.

What about this? We can’t fix or resolve a disagreement (resulting in a dispute) any more than we can’t fix or resolve a plane crash and the 300 people that were killed in the crash. We can’t resolve or rectify … Continue reading →

Imagine that two people agreed that their anger was understandable but not acceptable. That is, they could appreciate the other’s anger and their own but not find them acceptable? That could be stage one to the start of  “the test … Continue reading →

What is an Identificationship? A lot of people spend part of their lives complaining about being deceived or lied to, abused or judged. But what if you had a relationship/friendship/partnership where you both have agreed to be responsible for what you … Continue reading →

“I can relate with that” can just as easily be substituted with “I can identify with that”. But what does “relate” mean? What does it mean when she says we need to relate more. Relate what, in this case? “Relate” in … Continue reading →

Being angry is like shitting in one’s pants……understandable but not acceptable. Most of us, unfortunately, are not house trained.

Imagine using the layout of the underground as a metaphor for our brains and the learning process. However, also imagine that we did not have this plan above to help us and we needed to map the routes and locations ourselves. There … Continue reading →

To me, blaming and being angry go hand in hand. Most of us woudl agree, in the cold light of day, that blaming is not acceptable, along with the resentment and anger that accompanies it. In my view most of … Continue reading →

People will happily follow the loser and think nothing of it, but when it comes to leading the winner it becomes all too hard. I guess that explains,  when it comes to startups, why there are far, far more losers … Continue reading →