How to make the “perfect” agreement…Rethink Perfect!

Opponents learn and agree to use Rethink Perfect.
Opponents first find the point where they do agree, by:

  • Opponent A states her point and opponent B states that he doesn’t agree.
  • Opponent A asks why and if she does not agree with his reasoning says so.
  • Opponent B asks why and continue the process until they finally find their Agreement Point.

Both opponents then agree to rethink their arguments starting from this point.
If at any time the conversation becomes heated they refer back to the agreement point.
This process continues slowly, building upon their agreement point.

Things to look out for;

  • Complaints: Are a not so sophisticated way to pose an argument.
    Simply thank your opponent and ask them for their argument, encouraging them
    to start more with “From now on….”
  • Tone and Volume: Opponents can disagree with the tone and volume used.

A process that may speed up reaching the next agreement is the 6A’s

  • Speak with: Appreciation, Acknowledgement, Apology (speech in defence)
  • Listen for: Adjustability, Accountability, Acceptability
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2 Responses to How to make the “perfect” agreement…Rethink Perfect!

  1. Franis says:

    Opponents first find the point where they do agree, by:

    * Opponent A asks why and if she does not agree with his reasoning says so.
    * Opponent B asks why and continue the process until they finally find their Agreement Point.

    OK, I get that you’re attempting to establish rules of “fair fighting.”

    How might you address the problems of positional perceptual points of view? (This situation where each participants view of the situation makes sense from their own point of view, but does not agree with the others’ vested interests.)

    • Thanks for asking Franis. Well let’s say I posed an argument to you and you did not agree to it, then it is my job to either rethink my argument then and there by asking you why you do not agree and with your latest feedback, either answer then and there or let you know I will rethink my argument.
      I cannot move forward with you (or my argument) until we agree. So I better do some serious rethinking if I want to move forward. Through this process, I believe, my “positional perceptual point of view” inevitably will alter by my rethinking. Of course this applies to both of us.
      And of course this agreement can be rewritten if anyone had a better idea that we could agree upon.

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