If I am not wiling to say it to someone’s face or willing to have someone else say it to them
then I call this gossip. It is so easy to prove. When someone is talking to me about someone
else I can simply ask is it alright to ask the other person for their version and to tell them yours. If they say “no” then it is gossip.
Tow sides to every story (Anti-gossip) simply means that I can listen to everything that someone has to say about someone else and then find out the other person’s version.
I think our society runs on gossip and if I dare break the unspoken rule of telling the person that is being spoken about I am ostrasised as some sort of nutter. Well I think it is the gossiper that is the problem not the “teller” or seeker of two sides