To me, blaming and being angry go hand in hand. Most of us woudl agree, in the cold light
of day, that blaming is not acceptable, along with the resentment and anger that accompanies it.
In my view most of us tend to blame for someone else’s incompetence or lack of awareness and I see this as a form of incompetence, in itself. But what about the the blaming of someone that blames? I call this secondary blaming and it is something that I have been trying to deal with for most of my life.
You see, I rarely blamed someone for their incompetence but would blame them for
blaming me, for mine. I now see that all blaming is the result of incompetence and something that we can all learn, with a bit of instruction, to deal with.