Blaming the Blamer – The Incompetence of Being Angry

To me, blaming and being angry go hand in hand. Most of us woudl agree, in the cold light
of day, that blaming is not acceptable, along with the resentment and anger that accompanies it.

In my view most of us tend to blame for someone else’s incompetence or lack of awareness and I see this as a form of incompetence, in itself. But what about the the blaming of someone that blames? I call this secondary blaming and it is something that I have been trying to deal with for most of my life.

You see, I rarely blamed someone for their incompetence but would blame them for
blaming me, for mine. I now see that all blaming is the result of incompetence and something that we can all learn, with a bit of instruction, to deal with.

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4 Responses to Blaming the Blamer – The Incompetence of Being Angry

  1. Thanks Des! I blame you for helping me to be a better communicator. Thanks!

  2. No worries, however if you look up Wikipedia you get this:
    Blame is the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. Sounds more like you want to praise me, which I am willing to accept, but ultimately you are responsible for your own level of communication.

  3. GoofyFoot says:

    Another good example of where anger used to be acceptable – where employers used to be able to abuse their staff to keep them under your thumb but now that’s not acceptable

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  4. GoofyFoot says:

    Another good example of where anger used to be acceptable – is where employers used to be able to abuse their staff to keep them under your thumb but now that’s not acceptable!

    Yet so many people still excuse their anger as not something that can be controlled.

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