I have recently had a Facebook conversation with someone where they told me:
“I don’t believe in balance. Balance is bullshit!”
This was in the context of me telling him that
“Yeah but why does their focus on “abstract success” effect you? You don’t have to follow them do you? I think it is like the old cliche about finding a balance. I am looking to improve my knowledge on relationships with Rethink Perfect and achieve some independent financial success as well and I try avoid bullshitting and point out when I think someone is bullshitting to me, simples.”
He replied:
“well your viewpoint is quite individualistic. It doesn’t affect me directly. I want to change the world and I think sharing what I learn with others is something what I need to do. This is not about me is about a whole system that involves others. I don’t believe in balance by the way. Balance is bullshit..”
and also
“balance is a human mental construct that doesn’t really map to anything apart from making us “feel” better. I strongly believe in entropy and the human tendency is always entropy….”
I have been racking my brain how to answer this statement of attack on balance as it forms a big part of my thinking. And I have come up with “somewhere in between”.
I get told a lot that I think too much or over think, for example and have never been able to answer their, what I felt, was an accusation. But now I think I have it.
For example:
Person: “You over think!”
“Well I would rather over think than over act, but somewhere in between would be nice.”
or
Person: “You think too much!”
“Well I would rather think too much than not think enough, but somewhere in between would be nice.”
Person: “You focus too much on balance”
“Well I would rather focus too much on balance than focus on being powerful or powerless, but somewhere in between would be nice.”
Person: “You focus too much on yourself”
“Well I would rather focus too much on myself than focus too much on the world, but somewhere in between would be nice.”
So from now on I will try use this template when anyone gives me their advice:
Person: “You ______ too much!”
“Well I would rather ________ too much than not _______ enough, but somewhere in between would be nice.”