I just realised the other day that the counter balance on this diagram is now called
a Keel and it is used to keep the relationship on an “Even Keel”
At present I continue to slip over into an uneven keel with my latest victim….I mean GF, as per below:

Relationship without effective created understandings (Uneven Keel)
My brother, Steve and I seem to do it ok as we have a lot of created understandings in place to assist. Maybe the even keel consists of these created understandings?

Relationship with effective created understandings (Even Keel)
So as one sets up this keel of created understandings with a prospective partner
technically it should become more even, in theory.
technically it should become more even, in theory.
Nice! Worth testing.