I have decided for this decade to make sure I get rules of engagement with whoever I enter into a conversation/discussion with. It is too late to try form agreements as to how we treat each other after a dispute arises, as by this time we are over the cliff edge and falling with no mechanism to return to the top. Trying to learn to fly while descending at 9.8 m per second squared is not the best way. Better to practice first with both feet planted, I reckon.