I guess my demands of people were/are implicit and not so explicit.
Is there anything wrong with having demands? We all have heard of "reasonable demands". For example, to clean up after oneself is a reasonable demand, explicit or implicit. And I suppose we all think that our own demands are always reasonable, which may or may not be the case. Anyway I much prefer explicit demands at least there are no shocks afterwards.
I am trying to make any demands that I may have explicit, so that they can be looked at to see if they are reasonable or not.
I think that most relationships are built on implicit demands and implicit agreements and that is the reason that they fail. With explicit demands (demands in the open) there would probably be a lot less failed relationships as there would be a lot less relationships.