So what is it about me that makes me claim that I am an independent observer? Technically I have never been in a relationship other than an experimental one and so answer to no one. I have never received a cent for anything I have written here. I am not a member of any psychology or relationship organisation. I have no boss. I am not an academic. I am not "dependant" on anyone for sex or money, power, support, or endorsement to boost my ego. I guess some more dependant people, within these organisations, will consider me under qualified and my ideas underdeveloped and untested.
This may well be true but it shouldn’t stop them from looking at each idea or concept and spotting the error in my logic or reasoning and offer me feedback. Being a dependant observer, however is more than likely going to hinder their independence. Imagine if anything I am saying here is valid, each person reading this will have to ask themselves would they willing to retrofit any of their existing relationships at the risk of losing them.
As you can see, this could explain why relationship theory has changed very little over the years.