From now on I am going to try say thanks to everyone that says something to me that I don’t like. Thanks for saying it. Thanks for keeping me in the loop. Thanks for taking the time and effort to inform me. Thanks!
Then and only then will I let them know how I feel about the content and their delivery of the message and hopefully they will feel the same about my contribution.
Will see.
rethink PERFECT 
yeah and by the time one has said “thanks” (i.e. shown appreciation) the mindset is likely to have also changed towards getting some learning out of the interaction as opposed to scoring points.
That’s bullshit!
Only joking.