I reckon that a lot of relationships run on the premise of a “Bank of Goodwill”.
ie That you put into their bank and they put into your’s and if, for any reason, you let the other person down, your bank of goodwill is expected to cover it.
Unfortunately how much you put into each others bank is in the eye of the beholder and of course I believe put more into your
bank than you might deem I have and vice versa.
This is the story that my mate told me last night.
I told him that is fine but I did not agree because, firstly, unless this is overtly agreed to upfront, before the bank account of goodwill is open up and transactions take place, it is so open to abuse and misinterpretation, in my view.
I think I hit on a train of thought (group of neurons) that most people seem to live by.
and what causes us to “put up with” each other’s shit, up to a point and then bam!
And then we get:
“But I listened to you for two months and now it’s your turn”
“But i have slaved over a hot stove and now you can’t even do that for me”
“I’m sick of this, I’ve had enough”
Now, one is deemed to have overdrawn the bank account of good will by the other, and is seen as their fault also. The blame game begins and now it is impossible to measure objectively so no accountability, with no way to safely resolve.
Both accounts collapse and all the goodwill market is lost and this was not so hard to predict or forecast.
In Australia the average bank of goodwill collapses every 8.7 years (the average length of a marriage before separation)