Love, Creativity & Innovation are a Negotiation Process….

Love, creativity and innovation are a Negotiation process….where we negotiate with, ourself and each other…to save, protect and try…..ideas, understandings and proposals.

Creating, finding and maintaining…a safe physical, emotional and intellectual…environment to undertake such negotiations is imperative in my view, and is the first step in the process of love, creativity and innovation.

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My Relationship Resume 

Male that:

  1. Never gets angry
  2. Never tells bullshit
  3. Will always help you within an hour when asked
  • And will give an acceptable apology when he doesn’t keep 1,2 & 3

He will help you understand him and believes that creating understandings together is the basis for love. (Warning, creativity is not easy)

Looking for someone to reciprocate.

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3 Minute Lie & Apology

It seems to me that we all lie to a lesser or greater degree, and really, I don’t see this as a major problem. Let him/her that does not lie cast the first stone. But what I do see as very damaging and destructive is when we are found out and we deny our lie. We lie about lying.
This is when we are going to be in real trouble I think.

So here is my new understanding proposal. That we are allowed to lie but if we are discovered, then the least we can do is acknowledge it by putting up our hand and apologise for the lie.

If we can do this in 3 minutes and not 3 days then I think a relationship has a chance of succeeding. If not then I think the relationship is bound to fail, eventually.

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Uneven Keel

I just realised the other day that the counter balance on this diagram is now called
a Keel and it is used to keep the relationship on an “Even Keel”
At present I continue to slip over into an uneven keel with my latest victim….I mean GF, as per below:

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Relationship without effective created understandings (Uneven Keel)

My brother, Steve and I seem to do it ok as we have a lot of created understandings in place to assist. Maybe the even keel consists of these created understandings?

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Relationship with effective created understandings (Even Keel)

So as one sets up this keel of created understandings with a prospective partner
technically it should become more even, in theory.
Nice! Worth testing.
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Created Understandings

I think love/relationships is all about treating each other carefully and being especially careful about our reactions. Using Created Understandings or more commonly called “agreements” to assist in this process.

Preparing for the failure or lack of perfection during this process is imperative and
so creating our first understanding, around an apology process, is a good idea.

I suggest using a 3 step apology process where we state:

  1. What we did
  2. Why we did it, and
  3. What we would do next time

But you might have a better understanding to suggest?

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Food for Thought

I would go without food for a thought.

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How to Create an Understanding….Together

Talk a lot and make it up as you go along………..

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