Continued from my previous post:
To Commit or Not to Commit that is the Expectation
Unhappy Valentines day. The average length of a marriage in Australia is 8.7 years. more.
These are some of my thoughts on what is causing these “lifetime commitments” to continually fail at such a high rate.
What if we agreed to substitute the idea of “commitment” with “desire”?
When I enjoy what I am doing and who I am with I don’t need to be committed to them or what I am doing, I simply like being there in the moment. Why can’t women simply relax and know that by treating her man well and getting him to treat her well that you will both LIKE each other and love will simply follow.
Well that is what I am looking for. As soon as I feel forced to do something or to be with someone I cringe and want to run a thousand miles. And I have a feeling that I am not the only one that thinks or feels this way. It is my theory that anybody that has ever taken a breath on this planet feels the same, only have allowed themselves to be imprisoned, to some degree by what has been expected of them from their peers, parents, and their opposite number.
But how can desire and passion flourish when expectations reign? I don’t think it can and we are then left with a world of lifeless people stuck in lifeless relationships most of their lifeless lives. Sad but true, in my view.
Now I am not saying that men are the victims here of women’s expectations they are just acting stupid and letting their penis do their thinking for them.
Here are some suggested ideas of what I think we need replacing in relationship vocabulary to get a marked change in personal relationships: