Imagine that two people agreed that their anger was understandable but not acceptable. That is, they could appreciate the other’s anger and their own but not find them acceptable?
That could be stage one to the start of “the test of a first rate intelligence…” or maybe so thought F. Scott Fitzgerald when he famously said: “The test of a first rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.”
Well, not only am I predicting that these two people can function but prosper by agreeing that anger is understandable or appreciated but not be acceptable to either.
So what happens after this agreement is made? Well, they could then make an agreement to start to identify areas of value differences or disagreements but not to try to rectify them.
Once again, identifying problems without resolving or rectifying them is another test of a first rate intelligence, in my view. So why not rectify our differences or disagreements as well as identify them? Well, I think that there would be no reason to rectify our disagreements if we truly set about to just identify them.
By identifying them solely, I believe that the disagreements will rectify themselves. Worth a test.