To me the converting of others is understandable but not acceptable.
“Don’t you think…”
“Why do you always….”
“You should know better….”
“When are you going to …..”
These are all examples of someone trying to convert the other.
Whether they are using rhetorical or leading questions, the statements are
usually also laced with tone and volume and we all know what it feels like to be on
the receiving end of such vitriol.
The irony is that politeness and manners usually require us not to use such
statements on each other, when we first meet. But once we get to know each other
there seems to be no protection from such methods to try to get us to act a way
to suit the speaker.
I am afraid that unless I have an agreement on how we are going to approach such
behavior that I leave myself open to potentially trying to convert them back
in my defense. In effect I am afraid that I will do what I am afraid of having done on me.