Category Archives: Agreements

How many Positive Psychologists does it take to change a light bulb? None. You just have to accept that it’s dark.

The Pursuit of Perfect: How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Start Living a Richer, Happier Life by Tal Ben-Shahar My rating: 3 of 5 stars Ex-perfectionist, Positive Psychologist and now converted Optimalist, Tal Ben-Shahar’s dissertation is about the “positive”s of … Continue reading →

Hi Tal, I am just going through your book The Persuit of Perfect and I think I get what you are saying only it is so easy to get caught by the dichotomies that we use to explain the difference … Continue reading →

You know how someone says that they told a “white lie” in order to justify their deceptive behaviour. I wonder if the same can apply to anger and the way we seem to want to justify our “white anger”? I recently wrote … Continue reading →

From NY Times article: http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/01/07/why-does-anyone-have-children-2/ My Answer: I think that a good reason to have a kid/s is to test the strength of a relationship. I notice that Bailey mentioned that she is in a “committed relationship” as opposed to … Continue reading →

I think that the number one reason that relationships fail is that we have not gotten a fundamental agreement on how we treat each other. One single agreement that can change everything. And that is that: “Anger is understandable but not … Continue reading →

If you have ever watched Judge Judy you would witness the multitude of disputes that are happening between couples. These disputes are usually petty but are ongoing, with both having not gotten over their issues, and holding deep seated resentment … Continue reading →

As the state, reduces its punishment or mistreatment of its so-called criminals or crime breakers, so too does the violence and criminal activiety rates reduce in society. This seems to be the finding in one of Stephen Pinker’s latest book, The … Continue reading →

“What makes you think that I haven’t done this already??” This is a fine example of a rhetorical question and it is also unacceptable in my view. So why is it so unacceptable to me? Simple. I think it is … Continue reading →

Steve this is for my blog. What do you think is the difference between a discussion verses a conversation? I have my own personal idea, of course.